You’re Enough — and That’s How You Move Forward
As I get to the end of the year, I try to reflect on everything I’ve accomplished. And yet, it can be hard not to focus on everything I wish I had gotten done.
This year, I found the courage to start a business… and still, I catch myself being hard on myself. My mind jumps to thoughts like, “But you haven’t officially started yet. You haven’t made any money.” These voices can be incredibly discouraging. Even though they didn’t come out of anyone else’s mouth and live only in my thoughts, they can feel just as loud—almost as if someone were actually saying them to me.
So how do we focus on what we’ve accomplished without getting bogged down by everything we didn’t finish, or the ways we think we should have done better?
The truth is, starting is the hardest part. And I did start. I took the leap that kept me up at night for months—maybe even years. I made a decision that required courage, not just once, but over and over again. And yet, somehow my brain wants to dismiss all of that simply because there isn’t a dollar amount attached to it yet.
Telling yourself you’re enough isn’t giving up — it’s how you move forward.
Here’s what I’m learning: progress isn’t always profitable, and growth doesn’t always show up in a bank account. Some of the most meaningful work happens long before there’s anything visible to point to—quietly, behind the scenes, in moments of decision that no one else sees.
This year, I learned how to register a business. I figured out tax structures I’d never heard of before. I had conversations that terrified me. I stayed up late working on something that mattered to me instead of just scrolling. I chose myself and my dream over the safety of staying still, even when the outcome wasn’t guaranteed.
None of that is small. None of that is “nothing.” Those steps required courage and commitment, even without immediate results or external validation.
So how do we actually focus on our accomplishments without spiraling into self-criticism or discounting what doesn’t look impressive on paper?
The thing is, this isn’t really about my business. You might be thinking about the promotion you didn’t get, the weight you didn’t lose, the relationship that didn’t work out, the creative project gathering dust, or the habit you swore you’d build but didn’t. We all have our own version of “but I haven’t yet.”
What I’m realizing is that those voices in our heads are often echoes of old messages about worthiness. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that we’re only valuable when we’re producing, achieving, or checking boxes. That rest is laziness. That starting doesn’t count—only finishing does. That if we’re not constantly improving, we’re falling behind.
But what if we measured this year differently?
1. Acknowledge what you survived.
Not everything this year was about achievement. Some of it was about endurance. Maybe you got through a loss, managed your anxiety better than before, or simply kept showing up when things felt heavy. Maybe you held things together when no one realized how hard it was. That counts. That matters. Surviving a hard season is not a detour from progress—it is progress.
2. Notice what you learned about yourself.
Did you discover a boundary you needed to set? Realize what you actually want instead of what you thought you should want? Learn that you’re more resilient, capable, or self-aware than you believed? Growth isn’t always forward motion—sometimes it’s deepening. Sometimes it’s understanding yourself more clearly, even if the outside doesn’t look much different yet.
3. Celebrate the things you chose.
Every time you chose courage over comfort, honesty over people-pleasing, or rest over burnout, you were shaping a life that’s actually yours. Even small choices add up. Especially the quiet ones that didn’t come with applause or approval. Those moments matter, even when no one else witnessed them.
4. Let go of the timeline.
We beat ourselves up as if there’s some invisible deadline we’re missing. But whose calendar are we even following? Who decided that by this age, this year, this moment, we should have already arrived somewhere? Life isn’t a race with a universal finish line, and you’re not behind just because your path looks different.
Here’s what I’m trying to remember as this year ends: the voices that tell us we’re not enough, that we haven’t done enough, that we’re falling behind—they’re not actually helping us move forward. They’re just keeping us stuck, focused on what’s missing instead of what’s already here.
And what is here matters. The attempts matter. The days you didn’t give up matter. The small shifts in how you talk to yourself, the moments you chose differently than you used to, the courage it took to even want something more for yourself—all of it matters.
I’m learning that telling myself I’m enough doesn’t mean I stop growing or stop wanting more. It means I stop using self-criticism as motivation. It means I can acknowledge where I want to go without tearing down where I am now.
So as you reflect on this year, I’m right there with you. I’m practicing seeing myself—and my year—with more compassion. Not ignoring where I want to grow, but not using my growth as a weapon against myself either.
Maybe we can make a deal: let’s give ourselves credit for what we actually did. Let’s honor how far we’ve come, even if it’s not as far as we hoped. And let’s move into the new year grounded in this truth:
You are already enough—and that’s exactly what allows you to move forward. You don’t have to prove your worth before taking the next step.
Because you started something this year—even if it was just starting to be kinder to yourself. And that’s worth celebrating.
You’re Not Behind — You’re Still Becoming
Growth doesn’t always look like finished goals or visible results. Sometimes it looks like starting, pausing, learning, or choosing differently than you used to. Every time you reflect with honesty instead of self-criticism, you’re laying the groundwork for meaningful progress.
You don’t have to wait until you feel “caught up” to move forward. Whether this year included big changes, quiet survival, or small but important shifts, there is space to honor what’s already here while still dreaming about what comes next.
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